A child’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Let’s look at why it is extremely important to appreciate your child and become a Great Parent.
A valuable boost to a child’s self-esteem can be attained when you appreciate your child and motivate them. There is a distinct difference between appreciation and motivation. Appreciation is for the good they have in them or for some good that they did. Whereas, motivation is to tell them what they can do good in times to come. Motivation is also about how can they improve.
Lack of appreciation can directly create a complex in children.
Scientists say that by the age of 8 a child learns more than 60% of what they will learn in their entire life. When asked why this happens this way, most people seem to believe that since the brain is still fresh, children can absorb a lot until the age of 8.
To counter this research, there are enough research reports that claim, in his entire life, a human being hardly uses about 3% of their brain’s capacity. So 97% of a person’s brain is unutilized at the time of his death.
Leave the scientists. Have you ever wondered why kids learn at a fast speed or how they are able to absorb so much till they are 8?
Have you ever wondered why their speed of learning slows down around the age of 8?
Interaction with parents, observing the way kids learn, researching on how parents and children interact, asking parents who have groomed children who seem to defy this 8 years landmark, has provided us with a super clue as to why learning slows down in children around 8 years of age.
The answer lies in ‘appreciation’. Do a quick recap and see how you appreciated your child when they were two or four years old and the way you appreciate them post junior school. You will be shocked that your appreciation pattern had changed drastically.
Let’s look at a few examples –
When your child was learning how to walk, they were not taking confident steps. They were still taking steps that were unbalanced. As a parent, you always apprehended that the child might topple or fall off. So, when the child takes just one step at a time did you tell them, “I am not happy, you could have walked more?” Or did you tell them, “Look how well the other kids walk? What is wrong with you?” I am sure it was none of that. I am sure, you would have showered your child with appreciation. You would have said things like “Wow! That was good! I am so proud of you” or “You are doing great beta. Everyone learns one step at a time”. The child can see your happiness. The child can feel you being happy about their development. The child believes they are good!
Your child is just two years old. She child goes to school and learns to write “A”. There is no perfect “A” at this time. One line goes up the other goes across and chances are that the third line does not even meet both the lines properly. Even when it is not an “A”, when you see the first almost an “A”, you appreciate the child. You never ask “Are you dumb?” “Can’t you write an “A” properly?” or “When everyone in the class can write, why can’t you?”.Instead of making any negative remarks you choose to communicate with your child. You choose to boost your child’s morale. You say “I am so proud of you”. Your words make the child feel special and valued. It encourages the child to work harder towards learning more.
When the child learns his first nursery rhyme and sings to you. The child might forget some adjoining words or even an entire phrase of the newly learned poem. Did you scold the child? Did you tell the child, “Your memory is so bad.” Or “Why should I pay for your school anymore?”. In such a case, do you appreciate your child or do you depreciate him?. Despite his forgetting words, you always tell your child, ‘well done’. You appreciate your child for the efforts he made. Your excitement makes the child extremely confident. They want to try harder.
Human beings thrive on appreciation. When they get the appreciation they believe that they can achieve anything in life. And when they see someone excited about their work, it fills them with a desire to do more. They want to excel.
I would love to share my story with you. When I was a kid I didn’t get appreciation from parents, It felt so bad to me. When they need me I always with them but when I need them I am alone. Slowly I was broken form my heart. I started to build myself. I got a self-motivated. I have an interest in Science & Technology but Whenever I did some Experiment I didn’t get appreciation and It pulls me down. When I Understand about life I started earning money and build my small empire and Achieve awards. When Society starts appreciating me towards parents they feel proud but they are not behind my success. I succeed because I want to prove to them that I can Do.
When Started feels like a proud parent that their son is doing good and it’s good they are feeling proud. But after some days I suffer from Financial Crisis with the company and At that time I need Financial support from parents but they are not supporting me. I tried to get a loan from Bank and from another option but I didn’t get anything.
I learn one thing from it, “IF YOU HAVE PROBLEM IT’S YOUR PROBLEM NOT OTHERS”.
I request you to start appreciating your children and support him, It doesn’t matter if you are poor or rich whatever you can do for your children it will help to shape his future.